How to Build Self-Confidence – A Much Needed Wisdom for Success
‘Your level of Self-Confidence is directly related to your level of success’. Dr. Robert Anthony
Self-confidence is an inner sense of one’s ability or power to do or achieve something, whether it is simply being at ease among strangers or working towards building a network of distributors. Successful people are characterized by oozing self-confidence that entrain others to themselves and their purpose. They radiate a can do attitude that inspires others to work with and collaborate with them. While it can be developed as one move on in life, its very foundation starts well while still in the womb.
Experience of Wellness as Foundation of Self-Confidence
The foundation of self-confidence is the over-all experience of wellness in one’s self. This experience of wellness is established while the baby is still in the womb and stay with them their whole life. Mothers who are mindful of their pregnancy experience and endeavor to maintain a wholesome experience will bring out babies which grow to be self-confident.
Practical ways by which intelligent parents do this is by complete nutrition and good emotional experience through relaxed, stress-free and happy pregnancy experience. Even while still in the womb, the unborn baby has already the power to imbibe the environment inside the womb and the outside world through the experiences of the mother. Brain-intelligence potential is established through brain enhancing nutrition like DHA which can easily be ensured for them through the mother’s nutritional supplementation. One factor that has been shown by research to contribute to development while still in the womb is music. Pre-natal research on music and learning of unborn baby gives ample evidence on the positive influence of music in pre-natal development of babies. Our experience of raising our 7 children in an environment of classical and relaxing music during my wife’s pregnancy and beyond manifest personal anecdotal evidence in the positive development of their temperament and intelligence.
Providing a wholesome experience for children in their growing stages contributes further to their development as confident and self-assured individual. Providing the biological needs of growing children is paramount foundation, as in the pre-natal life, for developing self-confidence. A constantly weak and sickly child always experience physical pain and discomfort can hardly be expected to develop confidence in one’s self. But in the modern world of processed food, fast food, chemical-laden artificial food and drinks – junk food, this is a great challenge. The way to meet this challenge is to provide kids daily with complete nutritional supplements.
Positive Psycho-Social Experience for Self-Confidence
Though a solid foundation for developing self-confidence, physical-biological wellness is not enough. Equally important is the wholesome psycho-social- experience during their growing up years. The primary source of this confidence building experience is the way parents and adults relate to them and the kind of relationship promoted by parents and adults in between siblings and friends. The way to build this relationship is through the way of love. Seemingly obvious but deceptively difficult. Parent’s are also products of their own upbringing and programming – the culture, tradition and habits of one’s own parents. And they tend to perpetuate by force of habit what has been inherited. One has to be open to unlearning and re-learning. One has to learn The 5 Love Languages of Children which is not obvious to most and neglected in the way they relate to children and unintentionally sabotage their child’s confidence.
One common habit of parents is moralizing, lecturing or reprimanding children when they fall short of expectations, which are often the case in the still growing and developing child. This more than anything else affects in a negative way the self-esteem of children which is a correlate of self-confidence. A better approach is being alert and observant to catch them doing good and affirming them day by day. A very practical way to build confidence is through tools/practices like The I’m So Proud Of® kit that both parent and child can agree upon as a kind of family ritual or practice built-in to the day to day life of the family.
Problem of Lack of Self-Confidence in Adults
The same problems and needs of children with respect to self-confidence are present and a serious concern even in most of adult’s life. As in children, adults need a foundation of wellness to develop self-confidence. Physical weakness, sickness or general lack of well-being affects an adult’s self-confidence via the body-mind interaction system, which has been proven by science down to the biochemical level. Health and wellness is an evident mark of self-confident and successful people (though mismanaged success also leads to weakness). The most practical way to generate a sense of power and confidence is by maintaining fitness and health through exercise, proper nutrition and positive attitude. In the modern culture where unhealthy food has become the common stuff of meals the necessity of complete nutritional supplementation of the highest grade is no longer a luxury but a necessity.
A person’s inability to achieve a measure of success in their life is related in one way or another to lack of self-confidence. The same measure and remedies are likewise needed to be done and implemented by an adult person, but the challenge is even greater for developing self-confidence in adult person than in a child. It is because of ingrained habits deeply established in the neural pathways of an adult’s brain. Though one person knows what must be done to gain strong self-confidence, years of counter intuitive habits ingrained in one’s life tend to act as a self-sabotaging mechanism that destroys one’s self-confidence and cause one to flounder and fail at just some instance of negative factor, like hearing a negative remark from one’s prospect. Indeed one root cause of failure in one’s endeavor including network marketing is the lack of self-confidence.
How to Understand the Problem
To remedy this problem one has to be realistic and honestly confront one’s self as to one’s level of self-confidence. One tool offered for free by the expert in developing confidence – Dr. Robert Anthony – is the Self-Confidence Assessment Free which shows how to measure your present level of self-confidence with 100% accuracy.
No matter what level of self-confidence one has, you need to realize that there are causes of lack of confidence lodged deep within one’s psyche. It is this which need to be addressed to; first by identifying the beliefs, attitudes, experiences and self-concepts that undermine one’s confidence.
Much have been written about measures to develop self-confidence but in practice do not amount much. Most of the measures are exhortation to positive affirmation and action. But following this direction is much like climbing a steep mountain or in a modern context trying to reach the top of a building through scaling a scaffolding or a little bit better taking the stairway. In both ways the gravity is working against and can easily tire or discourage. The gravity, in this metaphor, is the established negative programming in one’s subconscious mind now manifested as habit of self-doubt.
It is because they fail to take into account the role of the subconscious in one’s personal life and experiences that most self-confidence building efforts fail. While much has been written about this, not much has filtered to the consciousness of most persons as to factor that in into their day to day experience. According to Dr Robert Anthony, our day to day action or behavior is “controlled by how I think subconsciously”.
To overcome problem of lack of confidence, one needs to understand that the problem is not merely current but extends down to the long history of personal programming that started way back in the early stages of one’s growth and development. Conversely, the way to develop self-confidence for life is the same way self-doubt is developed: through repeated communication to one’s subconscious.
How to Leverage Brain Power to Overcome Lack of Self-Confidence
If it took years to develop self-doubt would it naturally take equivalent years to overcome it? Normally yes. But advances in studies of the human brain and how to engage its powerful potential shows there can be shortcut to deep learning and reprogramming. Just as there is the physical innovation of elevator for climbing the stairway of a skyscraper, there has been psychological elevators that could help us descend into our deep subconscious mind and create deep and lasting change from deep down there. This then can create the needed change in a fraction of time it took for the negative habit or programming to be in place.
Such a “psychological elevator” has been created by Dr. Robert Anthony, a licensed Psychotherapist, acknowledged inspiration of the movie and book “The Secret” and author of The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence. Over a period of 30 years he has helped 10 million achieve lasting change and in a short period of time and with less effort through his mind tool programs. He has developed Self-Confidence Creator – 7 Days to Unstoppable Self-Confidence, a program for developing self-confidence the easy way and meant to last for a lifetime.